In our mediation efforts, once we are in the realm of “public policy,” we are inevitably poking our noses into questions of intergenerational equity and “governance” and how authentic collaboration can be achieved or improved.
This article discusses the ideological divide looking at conflict from both a mediator's (Part 1) and a therapist's perspective (Part 2).
This article discusses this concept: “Conflict in divorce cannot be resolved if we don't talk to each other.”
Some of us have a pattern known as people-pleasing.
Someone once said to me that while to a butcher a pair of lamb chops is just another set of lamb chops, to a person who has not eaten in a long while, it will be the best meal ever. In sum, it is all a matter of perspective.
In the 9 years since I left my own toxic workplace, I’ve coached and consulted with people in all stages of being bullying or mobbed (bullied by a group).
Embarking upon the journey of becoming a mediator led me into learning a new language, one that would be spoken both internally – (in how I would think about the mediation participants and their circumstances) - and externally – (in how I would interact with them).
Miscommunication plagues divorces in numerous different ways.
The metaphor of an iceberg has commonly been used as a metaphor about conflict.
Dispute resolution comes in as many forms as there are people in dispute.
I love mediation because parties get to probe, understand, make choices, create options and arrive at mutual decisions, saying how they feel about this conflict.
Getting a divorce? You have options that will allow you to pick the right people to help you do that, but there’s no one size fits all choice.
This article is to give an over view of the use of disability mediation and a case study. The article will highlight some of the benefits of utilizing specialist mediators, confidentiality and why disability mediation works.
The backbone of any project or change effort is the team that’s been entrusted to make it happen.
This article discusses the impact of gender equality on nonviolent conflict.
Mediation is a wonderful process and I love mediation but I do not want to see it get more complicated with “what mediators need to do” kinds of stuff.
In the spectrum of the recognized alternative dispute resolutions devices, mediation is perhaps the most flexible device allowing party control of outcomes through a structured process.
Masculine control of our culture is like that woman-eating crocodile: some of us never experience its bite, others see a glimpse of its toothy grin, but it only need destroy one woman once in a while, in order for the fear of it to affect all women.
Understanding BATNAs is especially important in mediation because they provide disputing parties with power.
This article discusses the ethics behind a mediator acting as a translator and drafting an agreement when there are dual languages.
There was a time, not long ago, when those who found themselves in a dispute had two basic choices: They could either file a lawsuit/initiate some formal complaint process or they could just walk away from the conflict and try to move on.
I’ve got no satirical purpose in my modest proposal and contrary to eating our young (like Jonathan Swift's original Modest Proposal), it is about learning from our young.
This article discusses using socially constructed realism to break through anchored positions in mediation.
The promise of online dispute resolution (ODR) depends on accessibility.
If we are able to consider that there is something good to see when a dispute causes us to feel dark and dim, we may be able to have a different and better relationship with conflict and ourselves within it.